Ok ladies, it is hard to make friends. Between endless drama, constant insecurity, and worst of all the huge social pressure to always be doing something. Making friends is hard, especially with these additional factors. However, it is time all the girls out there find the right friend group for them that consists of good friends. But what makes a good friend? One that makes you feel like you’re still in Hot Girl Summer.
Ellie Schnitt of Barstool Sports said in her podcast, Schnitt Talk, “[The] hot girl life, that we are all looking for.” Friends, are an essential part to this.
Here’s the thing: being a teenage girl in high school can really suck, but it doesn’t have to. One way to prevent this is through making the right friends. While this task is extremely difficult, here are some simple steps when making new friends:
Are they nice to your parents? Something about parent’s gives them a radar to detect bad friends, if your mom doesn’t trust her, neither should you. See how they are with your parents and what conversation is made, if your mom likes her/him, it is a good friend material.
Is the conversation balanced? When engaging in conversation, it should be balanced, nobody should be giving more effort than the other. Feel like you’re the only one making conversation, maybe a warning sign.
Do you have similar interests? While opposites attract, it is important to have similar interests. This is the backbone to conversation, it doesn’t have to be anything deep just something to relate back to.
While making new friends is such a fun thing, don’t forget about your day 1’s. When looking at your current friends, make sure they are your go-to source for hype. Friends empower friends, and if they make you feel any other way, they aren’t your friend. It goes back to the idea, your friends should make you feel like the hottest girl out there, not insecure or smaller to them.
While asking yourself whether or not your friends really make you feel this way, here are some things to consider:
Do they still hype you up? Whether it is in person, commenting on your posts, or showing you off on snapchat, being hyped up is always a good feeling. When it comes to girls, friends hype up friends.
Are you comfortable with them? If you aren’t comfortable talking to your girls about your life, they aren’t your girls. Maybe it just isn’t meant to be, but one should ALWAYS be comfortable talking to friends, it is what friends are for.
Are they a go to? It goes back to the idea of being comfortable, but when something happy or sad happens in life, you should want to tell your friends right away. Wanting to keep them up or get their advice is one of the best parts of friendship, if you don’t feel this way, your missing out on the greatness of a true friendship.
Everyone has different feelings towards friendships, but don’t forget that your true friends make you feel like your best self.
